The effect, we now know, can be damaging to neural development, which can lead to severe psychological and emotional difficulties later in life. As a consequence of ignoring readiness, maternal instinct, parental intuition and common-sense — so necessary to build an emotional bond — are swamped by pressures as artificial as they are dangerous.
When I first looked into the eyes of my son, I saw trustfulness, curiosity and joyfulness.
I saw no deviousness, meanness or selfishness. In that instant it became clear to me that if he ever acted in a devious, mean, or selfish way, his behavior would have been created by circumstances, not by him.
In that instant, I knew what a great responsibility I had to honor and protect his innocence and joy in life. Children are born innocent.
They want only to be loved, to learn, and to contribute. Those parents who are not able to appreciate this truth miss what should be the most precious moment of their life. They cannot trust their child - they instead suspect him of being somehow flawed and requiring constant correction.
The emphasis is on fixing something, not on enjoying and learning about this new person. This parent is always watchful, looking for ways to correct the child, which stifles his natural exuberance. This kind of suspiciousness is self-fulfilling - the child who is punished responds emotionally - as does any other person - with anger and fantasies of revenge, and physiologically with a burst of the stress hormone cortisol.
The parent then feels justified in continuing and even escalating the punishments. The child is from then on seen as potential trouble - as the enemy. This attitude is also self-fulfilling, because love begets love.
The child responds to being loved and trusted as we all do - by loving and trusting in return. It sets the stage for a rewarding relationship of trust and connection, or a battle between adversaries. This first meeting carries the seeds of years of happiness or misery. Look closely at this new being.
Learn from him how delightful and simple life is meant to be."In today's rapidly changing and complicated world, many children are brought face-to-face (sometimes precipitously) with the threats, ambiguities, and uncertainties associated with death, life-threatening illness, and bereavement.
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The freshness of the child is the freshness of your consciousness, which never becomes old, which always remains young.